It’s that time of year, it goes by so quickly! Before getting into the numbers, I wanted to mention something now referred to as “Tipping Fatigue,” which could also be known as “Guilt Tipping!”
I feel like this type of “Fatigue” is real as I have already suffered from “Zoom Fatigue.” It gets to a point where it’s ENOUGH Already! I first started feeling “Tipping Fatigue” last year during the holidays.
This new digital economy has changed many things so quickly and tipping is one of them. Thinking about this, tipping used to be both a subtle and private transaction. For example, handing a “Fin or 10 spot” to the guy or gal who brought up your luggage or telling a cab driver to “keep the change!”
At restaurants back in the day, the server would run your credit card and leave the bill for you to complete, sign and leave in the bill holder. Usually, there would be a tip jar, so you could opt to leave a cash tip with nobody watching. Now, at times, the server stands there and waits with the digital wallet and scanner and watches what you tip them. At coffee shops, they often watch to see what you tip them, sometimes before they have even prepared your order. I call this “Tipping Pressure!” I wonder if customers are frequenting places that do this less often to avoid potentially uncomfortable “Tipping Pressure” situations.
Now to the guide. Like pizza, tipping is a personal preference. Usually, one tips people that make your life easier during the year!
The following is a benchmark or starting point for tipping, and if you live in Manhattan, bump up these numbers by at least 25% across the board, then adjust based on your service level or experience.
Porter: $20-$50
Massage Therapist/Healer: 1 session pay & up, Pet Groomer: 1 regular service pay & up.
It’s not easy trying to figure out all these tips, so I hope this guide is helpful!
Another rule of thumb is the 20/30/50 rule! For example, if you are a regular at a particular restaurant and/or have a special relationship with a service provider, consider tipping them an extra 20% for good service, 30% for great service, and/or 50% for exceptional service! They will notice and continue being outstanding! Cash, gift cards, and even Venmo/Zelle, etc. with a note are now acceptable!
If you are ALL TAPPED or Tipped Out, consider regifting or a warmly written thank you for your service card. It is acceptable to buy them a pre-cooked meal, dessert such as cookies or a bottle of alcohol can suffice in a pinch.
Whatever you decide, I wish you and your family the Happiest of Holidays!